Sunday’s Song & Boundaries
Posted on October 5th, 2008 by Sandra
Just a typical Sunday here catching up with laundry, homework and hunting stuff down with the kids. In the Addicted to Stress book I was referring to earlier, it touched upon boundaries and the importance of your time.
Friendships are enjoyable when they’re mutually beneficial. If you’re the one who’s giving more and time is becoming stretched, it becomes unhealthy. Putting up boundaries becomes necessary when time is continuously drained by someone else.
Some ways to simplify your life and communicate your boundaries to someone:
- Say, “I don’t want to discuss this any further.” If they’re pressing for information about your personal life and you’re not comfortable responding, just say so or ask them why they want to know.
What are some other ways you communicate your boundaries? It’s good to be able to help someone. However, if time is becoming monopolized, you can run behind or not have time with family.
- Sunday’s song is James Taylor’s Shower the People. It’s a sweet message about family and love, perfect for a Sunday evening.
There’s a book I go back to here and tehre (don’t remember the name of it right now, sorry) that talks about the importance of saying “No”.
It seems like a simple word to resolve all scenerios that make you uncomfortable dealing with, right? But how many times have you given an excuse for why you can’t do something; said you’d do it and then get frustrated and stressed out because now someone expects you to follow through with your word; or have been left confused and speachless during an arguement because someone makes you responsible for something you don’t believe you’re responsible for?
The essence of “saying no” is simply: Don’t make excusses for things and don’t half-commit to anything. Say you can’t do it. Don’t say: “I’d like to, but I can’t, I’m too busy.” Just say, “No, I won’t be doing that. Sorry.”
Anyways, those are my two cents that came to mind that I felt I wanted to share :).
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Yes, there is no need to come up with an excuse. I’m still working on it but can simply say that I don’t want to do something now. Before, I always felt the need to come up with an excuse or explain the reason why.
Thanks for your input NunoXEI.